After a lovely evening spent with friends I came home to find a message on my answering machine. From the 'brother' I had hoped never to hear from again. Informing me of the need to pull together because our 'mum' is ill. Sounding as much of a screwed up coke junkie as ever.
There is only one way he could possibly have got my ex-directory home phone number. From the parents I specifically told not to give it to him.
I feel shocked and sick hearing his voice after so long. And furious that after everything my parents still have not learned they cannot control any of our lives.
It just confirms my desire to stay away.
Sunday, June 22, 2008
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I've said it before and I'll say it again...
Do what feels right to you.
If you feel you want to reach out to your Mum, go ahead but do it in a way that's feels right for you. If it's rejected, then that's their problem not yours.
If you feel you really don't want to reach out, that's okay too.
If there's one thing I've learnt in life (and it's been a hard lesson), it's that we can't change people no matter how much we may want too. But we can learn to accept them for what they are and get on with our own lives.
Life is never easy, BG
(((HUGS))) Steph
Hugs sweetie. I really hope he dosen't call you again.
Im with Steph on this one a really good comment.
They say you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family,great thing is that as you get older, you can certainly choose who you open the door to! Also who you care to have in your life, some of my friends are closer to me than my family ever will be and if I was to run into certain members of my family somewhere as strangers they would never in a thousand years be the people I would choose to be friends with.
♥ Jurid
BG ... send me an email ... can give prctical advice. You know who i work for!
Yeah you sometimes gotta put yourself first - sounds like its one of those times,
chin up, laters
Nicey
Steph: TY, wise words as ever. I had been to visit my mother, deciding it was probably the easiest thing for me, just to go and visit occasionally but keep away apart from that. This has sprung off the back of that unfortunately, my parents are simply unable to let things be and not try to control everything and anything.
You are so right about acceptance, the big problem here being that they simply won't accept me for who I am rather than what they want.Thanks again Steph, BG x x
Trixie: TY, me too x
Jurid: Exactly. It's sad how many people are in this kind of situation. TY x
Unixman: Done ;) x
Nicey: Absolutely, ty hon x
If you need something to take your mind away from this hurtful issue, I did tag you, when you feel up to it.
What is that old saying? You can choose your friends but not your relatives?
These are the things which are sent to try us, Bendy Girl. Good luck!
Hi Bendy Girl,
This should raise the bile levels
http://burningourmoney.blogspot.com/
Cheers
Dave
Aww Bendy sorry you are having to go through this again, (((hugs))) darling....xx
MrN: TY, sorry I didn't do your meme, but it helped inspire a post instead ;)
James: Indeed they are! TY
Dave: Hello again. I'm not sure quite what you mean about BOM raising the bile levels, is it because of the situation he blogged about following on from Mary's remploy post, or the blog itself?
Rae: TY my lovely x x x
PS, what/when inspired the name change?
Bendy. it's my real name, just thought I am locked really so not too worried about people knowing now...xx
Rae: It really is a lovely name x
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