tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post1373448249273450889..comments2023-11-25T01:12:34.326+00:00Comments on Benefit Scrounging Scum: "You can't tell by looking"BenefitScroungingScumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08939136229593231935noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-14379461922560563062010-01-03T23:57:57.516+00:002010-01-03T23:57:57.516+00:00Yeah, this one's the hardest response for me, ...Yeah, this one's the hardest response for me, too. Well, except for one person last week who, when I told her my hip comes out of socket (obviously just a scratch in the surface of what's wrong, but she had asked why I was on crutches in passing) said "yeah, I have the same thing." and then skipped off down the hall. I wanted to hobble after her and then smack her.<br />Love you blog!Jenn Hoffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04649788796089981960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-85586367978497295432009-10-17T14:18:41.839+01:002009-10-17T14:18:41.839+01:00Thanks for your humor, I too struggle with 'yo...Thanks for your humor, I too struggle with 'you can't tell by looking' and I think it is deep in layered meaning. On the surface it may be a well meaning compliment but what does that as a compliment say about there attuides to disability - it still cuts me as it feels very dismissive of the havoc and impact my condition has on my choices in life.<br /><br />You are fab, fist blog I'm bookmarking!<br /><br />EmmaEmmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16715404706583010216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-9761770118268727362009-10-13T18:40:26.199+01:002009-10-13T18:40:26.199+01:00Lol you shouldn't be so bloody gorgeous then, ...Lol you shouldn't be so bloody gorgeous then, I love your smile and that in it self covers up anything else...xxRachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05254109361061114465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-58513274181471089392009-10-13T12:24:51.729+01:002009-10-13T12:24:51.729+01:00Goldfish: Teehee! I definitely agree those options...Goldfish: Teehee! I definitely agree those options are all worse. Like you I do generally assume it's meant as a compliment, but I find the correlation we all make between appearance and health fascinating, it's one of the ways we subconsciously chose a partner and I'm sure it affects a great many more decisions we make. <br /><br />Kim: Hello my darling! How are you? Sorry I've not been to 'visit' with you much lately, the pig flu wiped my will to do anything. Hope your teeths are happy and not giving you grief anymore? XxBenefitScroungingScumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08939136229593231935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-20497457731142014322009-10-13T12:21:20.026+01:002009-10-13T12:21:20.026+01:00Scribbler: The categories are supposed to be very ...Scribbler: The categories are supposed to be very tongue in cheek, and yes I'm sure most people fall into the last. Having said that, there is a very real confusion about how disabled people are 'supposed' to look which is the wider issue. Sadly, though they are in the minority there are people who take pleasure in another's misfortune. <br /><br />Casdok: I thought it might be familiar to you;) Thanks, I love that top...bought it about 8 years ago in topshop!BenefitScroungingScumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08939136229593231935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-62822488138278208252009-10-13T12:18:22.949+01:002009-10-13T12:18:22.949+01:00Lou: Lucky for you I've got a soft spot for di...Lou: Lucky for you I've got a soft spot for dirty old men then eh?! ;) <br /><br />Cogi: I hate to break it to you...but I was referring to my 'rather cute' random stranger not me! lol<br /><br />Veronica: Zactly! To a level it's almost hard wired in us...I'm really sure it's linked to some of our most primal instinctsBenefitScroungingScumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08939136229593231935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-4579369406167018782009-10-13T10:47:50.394+01:002009-10-13T10:47:50.394+01:00Just popped over for a hello.Just popped over for a hello.frogpondsrockhttp://frogpondsrock.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-29184946322093997452009-10-13T10:10:00.702+01:002009-10-13T10:10:00.702+01:00I honestly think it is meant as a compliment but i...I honestly think it is meant as a compliment but it is also one of the stock responses. Like when a woman is pregnant and everyone (even I) ask <br /><br />(a) When is it due?<br />(b) Do you know if it's pink or blue?<br />(c) Have you thought of any names?<br /><br />because babies are supposed to be very very interesting but there's absolutely <i>nothing else to say</i>. There are other responses to the news of ill health, but these will be<br /><br />(a) intrusive questions about your condition and treatment, <br />(b) advice to eat more fruit (or something similarly banal)<br />(c) a lengthy description of <i>their</i> health crisis, in which they mistakenly thought they had a tumour and very almost died of tedium.<br /><br />WhichIthink are all much worse. My only advice is to frame the explanation so that you mention your health early on so and end with a question, such as<br /><br />"I've been sick which has caused a hiccup in my career, but I'm currently compiling a coffee table photography book documenting the inadequacies of disabled toilets in the British Isles. Do you know of any bogs that you think I might like to include?"<br /><br />Or something like that. I'm not dirty, old or manly but I do notice today's CAPTCHA reads <i>phwoahh</i>.The Goldfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-73402719382760645702009-10-13T08:33:53.063+01:002009-10-13T08:33:53.063+01:00Im sure you will hear it for many years to come.
L...Im sure you will hear it for many years to come.<br />Love your top :)Casdokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03497897393162856190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-12974189729176502612009-10-13T08:16:54.246+01:002009-10-13T08:16:54.246+01:00I'm sure you'll find most people are in th...I'm sure you'll find most people are in the last category. Why would anyone wish misfortune on anyone else?<br /><br />The other option, of course, is 'Well, I've no idea how to respond to that so I'll blurt out a statement of the bleeding obvious based on unconscious and unmalicious prejudices I may carry.'Scribblernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-74974002344979158852009-10-12T23:11:54.691+01:002009-10-12T23:11:54.691+01:00I think you've hit the nail on the head here. ...I think you've hit the nail on the head here. Disabled people are meant to look disabled. So if we don't, then we're not. Heh.Veronicahttp://somedaywewillsleep.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-62805484295718938952009-10-12T20:42:02.579+01:002009-10-12T20:42:02.579+01:00I agree..."rather cute" you said..."...I agree..."rather cute" you said..."cute" is just not the word for it and "rather" doesn't modify it enough...I guess that makes me a dirty old man too!cogidubnushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03542717738481600745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-76353072856934169522009-10-12T20:37:46.799+01:002009-10-12T20:37:46.799+01:00Personally, I think you are GORGEOUS and you can s...Personally, I think you are GORGEOUS and you can scrounge benefits from me anytime.<br /><br />That says more about me than you. I'm a dirty old man.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13024392628362568010noreply@blogger.com