tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post1755633431986105517..comments2023-11-25T01:12:34.326+00:00Comments on Benefit Scrounging Scum: The first cut is the deepestBenefitScroungingScumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08939136229593231935noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-55470483575474981402010-03-08T17:24:13.548+00:002010-03-08T17:24:13.548+00:00Reminds me of my ex boyfriend trying to make me fe...Reminds me of my ex boyfriend trying to make me feel guilty for not being able to do things. He was well out of order and I hope you'll be able to sit down with him and tell him (or email him if it'll be easier) that when you say you can't do something you really do mean it and him thinking you just can'd be arsed is very hurtful. Then if he ever does it again get rid of him! You don't need people like that in your life, you deserve betterbendy rebelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09514295106394209779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-78837781091129136852010-03-08T17:04:43.229+00:002010-03-08T17:04:43.229+00:00Unfortunately I have found myself in this situatio...Unfortunately I have found myself in this situation as well, especially during the time that I was sick prior to my transplant. My liver disease used to give me what was essentially a "brain fog" at times, as well as causing extreme fatigue. It would get so bad at times that I simply didn't have the strength to lift my head off of the pillow, or whatever I happened to be lying on at the time. <br /><br />Unfortunately, there were certain friends (and even some family members) who simply didn't, and perhaps couldn't understand all of this. It took a great deal of explanation to make them realize that I was NOT being lazy, or just "overtired," but that I was sick.Mr. Nighttimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09546329409708860876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-6655144214971956312010-03-07T13:13:58.851+00:002010-03-07T13:13:58.851+00:00I have been in that situation myself, I hope you c...I have been in that situation myself, I hope you can both work it out, speak about spoons & what it REALLY means for you and for him. xChronically Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00055955557738749696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-68717403815689561422010-03-06T08:30:24.913+00:002010-03-06T08:30:24.913+00:00See, you say can't and he assumes won't. N...See, you say can't and he assumes won't. Nathan gets like that sometimes and I've got to remind him that can't means can't. Also probably why I'm constantly running on borrowed spoons. <br /><br />xxVeronica Foalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05519401661788911341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-50728171500998708572010-03-05T16:25:16.111+00:002010-03-05T16:25:16.111+00:00Communication misunderstanding is the bane of the ...Communication misunderstanding is the bane of the world. Crossed wires,assumptions, own self doubt,perceptions they all go in the mix.<br />I guess that you can't sort out Ben's wounds other than telling him straight how it is for you when you have the energy and not before.<br />And he will have to cope with your truth or not as that is his choice.<br />xxFire Byrdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477692359400671374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-10450078173415195242010-03-05T16:06:41.258+00:002010-03-05T16:06:41.258+00:00Um, he sounds like a prize prick to me. If my husb...Um, he sounds like a prize prick to me. If my husband asks me to do something, and I reply that I am too tired or exhausted to get up and do it, he doesn't push it or accuse me of not caring.<br /><br />Prior to meeting him, I dated a stream of assholes who thought relationships were a one-way thing - my job was to care for and do things for them, and that was it.<br /><br />I find strange that he was so insistent about something so small - almost as if he wanted to make you do something you weren't able to or that would cause you pain to prove that you cared enough. And of course, when you couldn't be made to do it, he was no longer interested. The fact that he broke up with you over something so small would bear it out that he was looking to deliberately cause you pain in order to boost his ego.<br /><br />Crime prevention specialists call this sort of thing an "interview" - they are seeing if you can be pushed. <br /><br />Unfortunately, there are a lot of dicks like this who are attracted to people they see as vulnerable so they can play their little controlling games with them.<br /><br />Or maybe I am over-analysing and he was just an oblivious tosser. Whatever.DeeDee Ramonahttp://actionreplay.livejournal.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-79156873428040305352010-03-05T15:23:02.806+00:002010-03-05T15:23:02.806+00:00Oh dear, it is so easy for a small thing to sudden...Oh dear, it is so easy for a small thing to suddenly become a mammoth thing simply because of misunderstandings. <br />Maybe you could ring Ben and try to explain what went wrong (or better yet, get him to read this blog) so that you can patch things up with him an to enable him to realise that you were not ignoring him, more so that you simply forgot.<br />If this guy knows you as well as you say, then I presume he is familiar with the whole EDS/pain/painkillers situation, and if this is the case then he should also be aware that at times you (we) will forget stuff and also that there are many times when pain becomes so bad that everything and everyone else is just blocked out by your brain.<br />Hopefully he will see that his is all just a simple misunderstanding and then you can both patch things up again.<br />Have to be honest myself here though...why on earth did you HAVE to find that number for him? Is he incapable of doing that for himself and if so why cause all this hassle? Perhaps if this is the case he has more on his mind than he's letting on, if so the silly arse should tell you so.<br />(feel free to delete/remove that last part if it offends, this is not my intention)<br />Either way, do hope you get it sorted out soon *hugs*Lankylonglegsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34940564.post-24815017720447268562010-03-05T14:29:51.930+00:002010-03-05T14:29:51.930+00:00Well, here's hoping Ben reads this - perhaps t...Well, here's hoping Ben reads this - perhaps then he will understand and trust will be restored. Sometimes the slightest bit of miscommunication leads to the biggest blowups. And that's all this was, in the beginning. A small miscommunication.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13024392628362568010noreply@blogger.com